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The Positive Attitude Mindset
I was the person who used to have a bad and negative attitude about almost everything in my life. Having a positive attitude mindset wasn’t in my nature.
I wasn’t alone in feeling this way, as many of the people I came in contact with and /or interacted with were also regularly complaining about their problem or issues.
Why Such Negativity?
I’m writing this to discover the benefits of having a positive attitude and how it can help change your outlook on life.
About 5 years ago (about the same time my grandbaby was born) I realized I NEEDED to change my attitude towards life in general.
After all, I’d been blessed beyond compare with this beautiful, healthy bouncing baby. And an attitude adjustment was way PAST overdue!
I came to realize that I no longer wanted to constantly be stressed or worrying about my life as a whole.
About the bills, about my husband’s health, about my health, or even the work issues my sister was having at her job.
I learned that my greatest stressors were my children and to a certain extent my husband!
Discover the Benefits of Positivity
I needed to figure out how to go about changing my attitude and I knew it wasn’t going to be overnight!
I started by researching the best self – help books out there, then I went looking for some blogs or websites that could also offer up some ideas, suggestions or guidance as to how to revamp, so to speak, my attitude.
Want to know what the common theme was?
To think more positively about your circumstances and believe in yourself and your ability to accomplish and succeed in what you wanted to do and /or accomplish!
Although it sounds simple and reads even simpler if truth be told this is one of the hardest practices or habits to implement.
Why? You ask.
Because we are hardwired to keep doing and thinking what comes easily to us. Just as we’ve always done.
At first, I tried to think positive when dealing with our finances and my husband’s attitudes and even when speaking to my children. But, alas it still all went to pot.
What was I doing wrong?
I went back and re-read some of the books and pages that I’d highlighted or made notes in the margins and I discovered something I’d missed or read over the first time.
I guess just the positive thinking wasn’t all I needed to do, I NEEDED to see and take the positive out of the bad situation I’d just had. This meant start learning from my mistakes and feeling good about them!
Mind you I had no control over my children or husband’s attitudes, but I DID have control over how I reacted to them. That’s where my lessons were and where I learned to take them.
Now don’t get me wrong, I still get stressed out, especially by one particular child! But, I’ve learned to make peace with it and see the good and positive in each and every situation.
What I’ve Learned
I’m more relaxed, a little less stressed and ALOT happier! I’ve also learned ( or relearned) to pray and pray some more. In my adult life, I was never overly spiritual or church going.
I did know and was keenly aware of my faith and God. But, alas I only turned to him in times of trouble or hardship. Now I not only pray regularly but I’ve found myself “talking” to God as if he’s sitting or standing next to me.
This in and of itself has helped with my stress levels, my sense of joy for life and had shown me how blessed and grateful I should be (and am) for EVERYTHING I have- children – husband and everything else in my life.
I also remind myself daily to be positive and think positive!
Read about 4 More Enduring Truths to complement this post.
Here is another mindset article from Crystal Paine at MoneySavingMom
Tell me. What do you do daily to keep the stress at bay? I’d love to hear your thoughts.